I often focus on the big things in my children’s lives - future careers, health issues, long term effects of short term decisions - and the same for myself and for those whom I love and feel I have some bit of affect on. In my rush to influence the future, I sometimes tend to… Continue reading Grateful for tradition and the day-to-day

Gotcha Day. If you’ve not been involved in adoption, you may not know the term, but Gotcha Day lives right up there with birthdays and anniversaries. It celebrates the day your family’s life changes forever, all without eradicating a past or belittling a history. 21 years ago we met at our little home in Germantown… Continue reading Gotcha Day

If you’re reading this, I’ll go ahead and assume either that you have this particular surgery looming over you, you have an unnatural interest in vulvas (because this isn’t about vulvas per se, gentlemen, but rather it’s about the surgery thereof), or you just can’t believe someone would title an essay like that. Normally, I’m… Continue reading Vulval surgery – yup.